“Man falls from the pursuit of the ideal of plan living and high thinking the moment he wants to multiply his daily wants. Man’s happiness really lies in contentment.” Mahatma Gandhi
Sometimes giving up and letting things go can make us the happiest. Turning over the pages of time you are quite likely inviting depression, stress and excuses, all leading you to an unhappy and unfulfilled life. So, let us see what are those ‘give ups’ that can make us happy and content.
Give Up your self-directed negative thoughts
If you believe in yourself, believe implicitly, explicitly and unquestionably. Even the tiniest steps taken in right direction are praiseworthy. What matters is you have faith in yourself and you keep moving. Once you have won yourself by kicking off the self-directed negative thoughts, you will be amazed to experience what you accomplish
“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.” -Benjamin Spock
Give up your mean habit of criticizing unnecessarily
Abandon your mean habit of criticizing anybody. Don’t forget that nobody is perfect; being imperfect is an inevitable part of mankind. In many extent we all are perfectly imperfect and even the strongest stumbles; therefore, hitting anybody’s emotional peak unnecessarily highlights your own shortcomings and lack of spirit of criticism. Stay tuned for receiving criticism as an opportunity to construct your own self.
“Criticism, like rain, should be gentle enough to nourish a man’s growth without destroying his roots.” Frank A. Clark
Give up the past
Past always appears to so charming that it tyrannically overwhelms all our powers to embrace the beautiful present; so, you are wasting your fresh tears and precious time on old grief that has nothing to do with present. It is a human nature to perceive present to be worse than the past and future to be unresolved. Repeated venture in your incomplete and imperfect past will never alter your present; rather, it will invite mess, guilt, blame and resentment, it will let opportunities fly and leave the regretting chances upon the closed door. Live your life fully on the top of your spellbind past, enjoy the present and everything is beyond.
“One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon – instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. ~Dale Carnegie
Give up living your life on others expectation
If you are inclined to live your life considering what others think of you, then you are certainly betraying yourself. Living up to others’ expectation seems to be living a worthless life of others’ momentary and careless whim in the laboratory of life. Never try to acquire literary characters’ heroic greatness that your friends or family have picked up from any book covers for you; regardless of their disapproving glare, silent look and disappointing words. Their expectation will make your world full of disappointments and frustrations. If there is nothing wrong with expectations, then why not living up to your own?
“I do my thing and you do yours. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, then it is beautiful. If not, it can’t be helped.” Frederick Perls
Give up your resistance for change
Human nature resists change unless the benefits outweigh the risks or keeps them on hold as long as possible. Change has always been underestimated and resisted since it accompanies some discomforts and risks. We shouldn’t forget it is change what brings opportunity and shows us the road of growth, improvements and empowerments. Change is eternal and perpetual; it is will arrive in your life. So the best is you welcome it and don’t resist. If change comes through or after resistance, it will be painful. So embrace it and hug it!
“Change is hard because people overestimate the value of what they have—and underestimate the value of what they may gain by giving that up.” – James Belasco and Ralph Stayer
Give Up Limiting Beliefs
Your belief in yourself will decide your actions. On many occasions, you will stumble up on obstacles, challenges, and extreme conditions. In order to challenge and eliminate them, you will need self-confidence, and determination. If something seems to be impossible, it could be because you are self trapped of your own limitations. To accomplish greatest things, dream is not the only tool, it is the faith in your action which plays the main role in fulfilling them.
“Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.Mary Kay AshTrust yourself. You know more than you think you do.” – Benjamin Spock
Give up your fears
Fears holds you back from what you can be tomorrow; fear is the spirit-killer; fear is the first little step that invites total obliteration; fear is that strongest emotion that snatches your inner strength, courage and confidence but to think of conquering it over is the beginning of the wisdom that ends up winning the whole world. Don’t be timid adventurer of exploring what you are afraid of, face it and let it pass through or over you. In the end you will find your courageous self to be left.
“You are frightened of everything. You call it caution. You call it common sense. You call it practicality. You call it playing the odds, but that’s only because you’re afraid to call it by its real name, and its real name is fear.” – MICK FARREN,
Give up the habit of blaming other
Blaming other is wasting your valuable time and heaping up your own frustration and disappointments on others. Only poor artists blame his instruments.
“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.” – Albert Ellis
Give up finding causes not to be happy
Everything appears to be bliss of God, everyday seems to be the most beautiful day and every season seems to be the season of love if one carries happiness in deep within. Happiness does not come from without; it is a form of courage and conscious preference that is to be felt deep within so give up finding millions of excuses not to be happy. Regardless of your circumstances – misery of you dispositions, daily frustrations and disappointments – determined to be happy is what that makes your happiness eternal.
“Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn at once how big and precious it is.” – Maxim Gorky
Give up your personal requirement to control situation
Be sensible and ready to give up some of your personal requirements to control the situation, issues and people like your friends, family or fellow around you. The art of happy living itself lies in the blend of letting things go and holding on; therefore if you let something go for better it will make you feel good.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
Written by: Mousumi Kumar Saha