1. Live in present which is real; this very moment is real and you must live it the fullest. Visit the past but not to stay there. Do not continue your life looking back on it, you will never proceed to new great things as they are rooted in your present. It’s up to you that you clutch your past tightly or live in tomorrow’s ephemeral imagination or enjoy the life of today.
2. Don’t fear of making mistake. The greatest mistake a fool makes is to think that he is too wise to make mistakes; on the other hand, a wise makes mistakes but use them as stepping stones to success. Remember, wise judgments always emerge from experience and experience from mistakes.
“When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.” – Paulo Coelho
3. Knowing the people who you make friendship with or acquaint with is an art. Sometimes, people are not what they seem to be or what we perceive them to be. On the way of our life journey, we will meet with several positive and negative people but it depends on us whether we inspire ourselves by the greatness of positive people and enrich self-confidence or indulge in pessimism offered by negative people and demean our aspiration.
“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that. The really great make you feel that you too can become great.” – Mark Twain
4. Appreciate and smile on other’s success. Keep your vocabulary full of positive sentences and always pronounce:
“I value your hard work”, “You are going well”, “I respect your guts”, “I am proud of you”, “I have faith in you.” These small sentences leave great impact on people and create limitless power to accomplish difficult tasks.
“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are endless.” Mother Teresa
5. Your maturity doesn’t lie in uttering or lecturing wise words, it lies in understanding the importance of small little things, enduring uncertainty, surviving peer pressure, laughing at your-self and acknowledging your mistakes.
“A mature person is one who does not think only in absolutes, who is able to be objective even when deeply stirred emotionally, who has learned that there is both good and bad in all people and all things, and who walks humbly and deals charitably” – Eleanor Roosevelt
6. Sometimes, we get so attached to things that it becomes impossible to move on. A brave decision to let them go becomes the best decision of life. Samir Arora, co-founder of NetObjects and Glam Media, had numerous significant contributions in the entertainment industry. Besides taking part in more than 30 theatre and TV productions, he wrote several musical compositions. He had to sacrifice them to join his dream company Apple Computer.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try, the world is beyond the winning.” Lao Tzu
7. Ask this question to yourself “do I really know myself?” knowing and believing the self are two different things. Most people spend their whole life encountering others rather than themselves; as a result, they never realize their true potential. Spend some time looking inward, some chapters of your life will surely fascinate you.
“Self-knowledge is the great power by which we comprehend and control our lives.” — Vernon Howard
8. The journey to our destination is not always straight or free of troubles; we are bound to wander and challenged by adversities. But those who keep stepping ahead end up to the right place at the end. A good few of us enjoy the journey and reach to the destination with hearts full of treasures while the rest reach there with empty hearts and slightest scratch on their bodies.
“The most important reason for going from one place to another is to see what’s in between, and they took great pleasure in doing just that.” ― Norton Juster.
9. Life is much shorter than we think. Cherish every second with family and friends, spread love as if it was your last chance to share, live as if you were living in heaven, appreciate people as if they never received such pleasing words. Make sure that your tomorrow comes as a new day which does not begin with some old nonsense grief or absurdities of yesterday.
“Life is like a blanket too short. You pull it up and your toes rebel, you yank it down and shivers meander about your shoulder; but cheerful folks manage to draw their knees up and pass a very comfortable night.” Marion Howard
10. Don’t take any decision when you are angry. Anger takes away the light of understanding, kills compassion and forgiveness, and pushes you towards secret revenge. Moreover, it whispers about hatred and initiates you for evil; its makes circumstances desperate and doesn’t let you sit in peace. Therefore, taking decision when your fists are clenched is nothing but inviting danger, regret and resentment.
“If a small thing has the power to make you angry, does that not indicate something about your size?” Sydney J. Harris
11. The people we meet on the way in our lifetime teach us two ways to achieve things – what we should do and what we should not. Positive people show us the way to get enlightened and negative people show the ways we must avoid.
12. Never nurture the evil tree that lives inside. It will wound your mind which is life-threatening.
“Evil is like a shadow – it has no real substance of its own, it is simply a lack of light. You cannot cause a shadow to disappear by trying to fight it, stamp on it, by railing against it, or any other form of emotional or physical resistance. In order to cause a shadow to disappear, you must shine light on it.” – Shakti Gawain.
13. Sometimes we doubt, complain, worry and wonder why things aren’t working out after a lot of hard work in a planned way. This is the high time you should be patient for getting things done. Worries and complains will not solve the problems of tomorrows but surely will drain out your strength to endure and encourage for giving up and you will never realize how close you were to your destination. Your actions are on the way to receive ‘ACCOMPLISHMENTS.’ If you quit, the person behind waiting in queue will receive it. So, Never, never give up!
“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.” – Dale Carnegie
14. Most of the time, mental peace or real happiness does not come from money or fame, it comes from having a very supportive family, having fun with children, watching good TV programs with family, having small trip with them and leading a quiet life with full of leaning moments. We often stumble upon bright and smiling faces of superstars, celebrities and leaders and feel they are the happiest. This isn’t entirely true! Considering success is the key to their happiness, they smile in pride to show you their luxurious lifestyle. The fact is they deal with noisy and chaotic life. A majority of them aren’t happy at all.
“Be relaxed, enjoy the ride of life; your happiness will open the door to success”
15. We often seek happiness in what we don’t have; we feel tempted to have them for happiness. Change this habit and start giving importance to what you already have.
“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”– Frederick Keonig
16. Take action instead of only reaction! Only actions can interpret your thoughts in best possible way. Don’t expect situation to handle it which will not turn them positive. It is action that will make them positive. Reaction will make your situation miserable and action will shout out your intention on behalf of you.
“Remember, people will judge you by your actions, not your intentions. You may have a heart of gold – but so does a hard-boiled egg.” ~Author Unknown
17. If you see somebody to be very happy, don’t be in illusion that his/her life is pain-proof or problem-free. All it means is she/he has chosen to be happy regardless of circumstances.
18. Sometimes we blame others for having difficulties in our lives but we do not realize the causes that lie within us. Instead of blaming others, if we try to reach the root of it, our problems can be quickly solved.
19. We always wish to have others’ possessions and position – if I had a big house like my friend’s, if I had opportunities like his/hers, I had that nice car or if I had a better job. The ‘IFs’ and ‘Coulds’ create heaps of dilemmas for you. Cut these words from your wish lists and conversation.
20. Get up early in the morning with a smile face, fresh mind and a promise that ‘I will stay positive no matter what comes on my way’.
21. Life is full of happenings, you have to experience everything. Be equipped with courage for great sorrows and strength to battle with difficulties; have patience to endure pain until good things are achieved; be laborious to accomplish things and have a better tomorrow; grace to confront your sins and forgive them; have faith in your own guts to make things happen and hope to remove all concerns and anxieties.
22. We all need money; money is precious, but it is not everything.
“Money is a needful and precious thing, and when well used, a noble thing, but I never want you to think it is the first or only prize to strive for. I’d rather see you poor men’s wives, if you were happy, beloved, contented, than queens on thrones, without self-respect and peace.” — Louisa May Alcott
23. Most of time you speak others’ thoughts, accomplish other’s wish, your passion is not actually yours rather others passage, and live other’s lives. In the end you spend a whole life that is not yours but mimicry of other lives. Always be yourself. It might seem to be hardest battle you are going to fight but you can only win when you will be just be yourself.
“Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.” – John Jakes
24. Learn to respect yourself. Listen to your heart, feel your soul and sense you infinite spirit. They tell you what you exactly want to be and assist you in achieving your goals. If you have respect for your-self, then it does not matter how lightly one holds you.
“Self-respect is the cornerstone of all virtue.” John Herschel
25. Having a good sense of humor is necessary as it proves your supremacy over all misfortunes or adversaries that befall on you. Humorous people have a very deep grasp of whole complicated life, they can take pain playfully, laugh loudly on their own mistakes, refuse taking despair seriously and live the life as it comes.
A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs – jolted by every pebble in the road. Henry Ward Beecher
26. Practice forgiveness. Forgiveness might not change the past but create opportunity for future and set your-self free from suppressed anger, poisonous environment that was burning you from inside, and let you forget the betrayal. Forgiveness makes you the strongest!
“Forgiving is rediscovering the shining path of peace that at first you thought others took away when they betrayed you.” Dodinsky
27. It does not matter how many times you fall or how deeply you are injured, what matters is how many times you get up and fight back.
28. Don’t hesitate to acknowledge mistakes. Apology is the magical word and gracious gift that heals the wound and settles the clumsiest situation.
29. Never give a second-rate treatment to yourself by saying I do not deserve it. Dare to be great and it will make you the first-rate version of yourself.
“Excellence is not a skill. It is an attitude.” Ralph Marston
30. Be crazy, desperate, aggressive and fearless to peruse your passion. Once you have decided to go for your passion, it will rise your soul from terrible life and assist you to build something better, stronger and more beautiful. Without passion there would be no Albert Einstein, no Leonardo Da Vinci, no Charles Dickens, no Van Gough, no Mozart, and no Louis Armstrong.
“Passion is universal humanity. Without it religion, history, romance and art would be useless.” Honoré de Balzac
31. Sometimes we invest too much of our precious time thinking of the person who does not even care for us. The choice is yours!!
32. Live simple; simplicity has its own distinct beauty. Cut the unnecessary things that complicate your life and make you extravagant.
“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.” Leonardo DaVinci
33. Pain is inevitable! It will knock your door whether you like it or not but it cannot ruin you until your permission. Let pain teach you something; it might gift you greatest experience of life.
“Given the choice between the experience of pain and nothing, I would choose pain” William Faulkner
34. If you are feeling isolated or deserted in deep dark, don’t be disheartened. It is time for you to prepare yourself to cultivate and flourish. Caterpillars grow and get their wings from this dark. Enjoy your solitude!
35. Sometimes you just need to get out of your monotonous life to fill yourself with fresh ideas. Do not hesitate or think twice; go for a trip, unwind for some days and weeks come back as an enlightened soul with fresh energy.
36. If people try to hold back or drag you towards the past (which often happens) then never encourage them to do that. They will drag to the past and left there alone to enjoy the drama.
37. Do every small thing with great care, respect, large heart and infinite love because every greatest achievement is the extended version of several small things. Small things always unite for biggest accomplishments; so, don’t underestimate them.
38. Always try to be content! Remember, there are several hundreds of thousands of people worldwide who are in far worse condition than that of yourself.
Written by: Mousumi Kumar Saha